ReShape Your Relationships
You don't have to manage every word
You communicate.
You listen.
You lead with understanding.
And still, something feels unsettled.
It’s not about trying harder.
It's a pattern.
Together, we ReShape it—
so you show up with calm strength,
stay steady,
and finish with your confidence
and peace intact.
Christian Life Coach ... Keynote Speaker ... Published Author
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ReShape Your Patterns - Coaching
Certain conversations leave you bracing... managing your emotions and the other person's.
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You replay conversations.
You question your tone.
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You’ve tried understanding more.
You’ve tried adjusting your reactions.
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And still, you don't feel like yourself in the relationship.
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This isn’t a flaw in your personality.
It’s a pattern.
If you don't interrupt it, it keeps shaping how you show up... and feeding the mind spirals.​
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In my focused 2-hour ReShape Intensive, we
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uncover the root of the pattern and release its grip —
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so you’re no longer bracing or overthinking, and
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you have grounded tools to steady yourself in the moment,
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no matter how someone else reacts
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Relationships change when how you show up changes.
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If you’re done managing, bracing, and overthinking—this is your next step.
Speaking
Using stories, analogies, and humor, your audience or group is engaged and guided from pain or problem to understanding and next steps.
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Signature Topics:
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The Good Girl Is Exhausted: Why over-functioning is killing connection
You’ve been the responsible one. The understanding one. The one who keeps things steady. But being “good” often means shrinking, managing, and carrying more than your share. This talk exposes how the Good Girl pattern forms, how it shows up in leadership and relationships, and how to build boundaries that deepen connection instead of draining it.
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Peacekeeping Is a Control Strategy: And it’s costing you real connection
Harmony feels safe. But when you’re constantly smoothing, fixing, or managing tension, you’re not actually building closeness — you’re controlling outcomes. This talk challenges the myth that keeping the peace equals health and teaches communication and boundaries that create mutual, secure connection instead.
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Overthinking Isn’t a Personality Trait: It’s a nervous system response
You replay conversations. You analyze tone shifts. You brace for what might happen next. This talk unpacks how relational stress activates the nervous system, why overthinking follows, and how self-trust is rebuilt so connection feels steady instead of fragile.
Any topic can be customized to your audience or group and tailored to fit the time/space available. ​
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​Honored to Guest on Podcasts, Speak at Events, Create & Lead Masterclasses, Author Articles, and More.​​​
The Journey That Shaped Me
Adult Child of an Alcoholic
I grew up in an unstable home so learned insecurity, anxiety, and fear--my emotional blocks--& had no idea of who I was. My parents were physically there but not emotionally present.
College Drop Out
I only went to college right after HS because it was expected of me and I didn't know what else to do. I failed out of college. My emotional blocks & a not so healthy relationship were big contributors.
Unhealthy Marriage
I married that man from college because, again, I didn't know what else to do. We had ups and drama; the latter becoming the norm. I stayed in that for almost 30 years before it ended.
Christ Took Hold,
Passion Ignited
At 38 years old, Christ transformed my life, and began to show me how deeply He authentically loves me for who I truly am.
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To save our marriage, my husband and I did couple's counseling. I loved it & thrived. Christ used this to ignite a passion in me to become a therapist and devote the rest of my life to encouraging and healing the lost, particularly women.
Back to College, Became a Trauma Therapist
With Christ, I returned to college in my late 40s. I finished my BA in Psychology and earned an MS in Pastoral Counseling & Community Mental Health. I loved all of it.
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For over 10 years, I was a trauma Licensed Therapist. I devoted myself to 1000s of hours with clients, intensive & advanced education, and training new therapists. I gave it up to reach even more hurting women as a Coach, Speaker, & Writer.